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Meta-Movie Mind Pattern
Designed by Alan Fayter
We have different levels of meaning that affect and drive our experience. This pattern brings a sense of control and ownership to the different levels and aligns them more congruently. We systematically move up through the levels of mind making changes, commission a new movie at producer level – YES! (executive decision); then move back down through the levels and ground the changes in state and action.
The pattern can be run ‘formally’ – explaining the process and metaphor to the client; or conversationally by just holding the structure in mind as you coach, identifying relevant aspects of the clients experience as you go; i.e. ‘sub’ modalities at the editorial level, cognitive distortions and meta-model violations and decision and choice at the writer/director and producer levels.
1) Think of a current problematic or challenging situation.
· What is a current situation or context that you frequently experience that doesn’t serve you well? A situation at work, school, a sports situation, etc where you are not acting or responding at your best?
2) Notice how that runs as a movie in your mind with you as the Actor.
Is it black & white or colour; are you in it or watching it at a distance, what is your role?
What characters are there?
What are they doing, saying, etc. in what tone, pitch and volume?
As you really explore it and notice, what exactly is it about it that makes this a problem?
What cognitive distortions are present in your own internal dialogue? What else do you notice?
3) Imagine you are now the Editor.
Step back, notice and start to edit how it looks and sounds. Play with changing the colours (brightness, contrast, sharpness, etc); the sounds (volume, tone, pitch, rhythm, etc), until it feels more comfortable or manageable. Change the camera angle, foreground or background different aspects, change the focus of attention.
4) Imagine you are the movie Writer/Director.
Step right back from that movie and as the writer/director change the story.
Decide to change the narrative (cognitive distortions), the outcome and storyline into something more useful and empowering.
Direct each of the characters (perceptual positions/social panorama) and give them the resources they need.
Give the lead character (you) all of the power, resources and strength they need.
5) Now imagine you are the Producer.
As the producer you have the power to choose whether to commission this new movie or the old one.
Does the old one serve you? [NO!]
Do you want that old movie to be constantly running? [NO!]
6) Make an executive decision to run the new empowering storyline.
Will that be ok? [YES!]
Do you want that? [YES!]
Will this new movie empower your life? [YES!]
7) Bringing this executive decision power with you, step back through and align it with the Writer/Director, Editor and Actor. Notice how it’s different.
As the writer/director will you resolve to change the movie, to keep it on track? [YES!]
As the editor, will you resolve to keep the picture, lighting and sound systems congruent with the new outcome? [YES!]
As the lead actor, what new things will you be saying and doing (sensory specific behaviours)?
8) Future pace.
In the days, weeks and months ahead what will let you know you are running/acting in this new movie?
What new understandings, realisations and opportunities are there for the future now (sensory specific)?
9) Check the ecology.
Is this ok, will it empower you and make your life better?
If so, good. If not, go back and change it some more.
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Meta State “Release Set Back/ Flash- Back” Pattern
The outcome of Neuro Semantic NLP is the empowerment of the individual to increase the quality of his or her meanings and representations, unleash potential and produce the needed strategies to generate the resourceful states and behaviors that actualized the individuals desired Meta Outcome.
While the above is the “intended outcome” as well as the “process”, the “real life” journey inevitable involves experiencing old disempowering Meta State “flash backs”: the return of old frames of thought “packaged” as experiences or memories.
A “flash-back” literally means a transition to an earlier event or scene that interrupts the normal chronological development of the present OR an unexpected but vivid recurrence of a past experience, belief, understanding, meaning etc. that seems to be happening again and which influences the current primary states.
This is an absolutely normal phenomenon as “flash- backs” act like an “echo” of our old negative patterns of thinking and feeling that have become bad cognitive habits. Habits can be useful, they put our brains on “auto pilot”, meaning that it become so efficient that it become an unconscious pattern; leaving our conscious mind “free” to focus else where. Habits, however, can be “bad news” when it comes to our old negative patterns of thinking and feeling: holding in place old disempowering Meta Stating Habits.
While “normal”, such “flash- backs” can be quite disturbing if no strategy is available to interrupt the “flash-back” and to restore as well as “flash forward” the needed empowering desired state. Why so? Simply because of the nature of a Meta state which is self recursive; it tends to loop and move in spirals. In the case of a disempowering Meta State “flash-back”, it can spiral downward and “trap” a person in “a closed in” loop that’s energy draining; one that can further install the old Meta State!
The Meta State “Pattern Disrupt” serves two outcomes:
1) Disrupt the old disempowering Meta State “flash-back”, experience and
2) Replace it with a resourceful Meta State that empowers the individual to attain his particular desired outcome.
A pattern is only effective to the extent it accesses and applies the resources which are appropriate to address the individuals’ particular contextual needs (outcome) in a congruent and ecological way. Consequently, this pattern is set to function as a “resourceful partner” to any other pattern or combination of patterns that assists an
individual to form a clear, tangible, congruent and ecological outcome and sets out the steps for it to be attained.
Example: The Well Formed Outcome Pattern coupled with the Meta Alignment and Genius State Pattern can equip an individual with the needed focus, direction and Meta State resources to actualize the “well formed” outcome. Along the way when Meta State “flash-back” occurs, this pattern can serve to restore equilibrium and the needed resourceful state, serving as a “gentle replug”. Hence the issue of “congruence and ecological balance” is already established. Caveat:
This pattern is best used after an individual has completed his Neuro Semantic NLP Practitioner Certification and the APG which provide the fundamental psychological primes for unleashing potential. With this backdrop, this pattern would be easily understood and used with much reward.
As mentioned above, experiencing “flash-backs” is a normal phenomenon.
Nonetheless, being able “to be aware” of them, not labeling the “flash-back” experience or oneself and remaining centered in ones core frame of self value and worth: “operating with high self esteem even in the face of dignity–denying or threatening experiences” (The APG, Meta- Stating Self: L. Michael Hall. PhD) is crucial. This serves as a credible buffer that prevents the “flash-back” from trigger a disempowering Meta State a downward spiral.
The Three Primes:
1) Develop a high level of consciousness.
Consciousness is not “thinking” or “thinking about our thinking”. It is a state of awareness, of being “awake” and observing our mental thoughts in the present: being in the “now”. It is the ability to take a “mental step back”, observe and witness our thoughts and emotions in a non judgmental or self recriminating way: to observe our old maps that creep up on us as “flash-backs” or when triggered by an anchor; much like a old “photo” from your childhood days that have little relevance to the adult you now.
Our mental maps are not the territory (reality); it is but a map, a symbolic representation of the territory. Much like a road map which is certainly not the road itself, developing consciousness helps us discern the difference between our mental maps and the territory out there: our maps automatically delete, distort and generalize information and our brains will use whatever maps we give them!
Developing consciousness gives us choicer; it is the choice of the “blue pill” that we make.
2) Avoid “labeling” yourself or the “flash-back experience”
The problem is never the “flash-back” but the way we have interpreted the experience and/or labeled ourselves, that makes it a “problem”. Once we say to ourselves, “I such a hopeless person…..I just hate it when this happens…I must get my self out of this stupid state or I am a certified Mater Meta NLP Practitioner and should not be experiencing such flash-backs.”, we are providing the “muddle” with more mental energy to perpetuate itself. Why and how? Simply because doing the above will trigger our minds to reference these old maps again; remember that we think, reason, evaluate, understand, value, conclude, feel or emote etc. with our mental maps, our mental references!
Simply learn to get curious about them while holding yourself with the utmost respect; accept them as just “old snap shot” from the past.
Energy flows where attention goes as directed by intention. This means that whenever we set an “outcome” with the power of focus (through labeling, self judgment or criticism), that very “outcome” will get the energy of attention and put us into a state as well as trigger our Meta States through self reflexive consciousness!
3) Develop and maintain a high sense of self acceptance, self appreciation and esteem.
This is the ultimate source of our personal power, equilibrium and unlimited possibility. Personal power here is in reference to our “inner sense of strength” that cannot be taken away, that’s inherent in us and which flows form our inalienable and inexhaustible self esteem as being created with all the resources to be successful.
Owning this core enables us to hold our “own” during a “flash-back” no matter how “bad or horrible” we may feel.
People have all the resources they need: they just need to access, strengthen and sequence them. There’s an abundance of personal resources, plenty for all.
“All human beings are born free and equal in dignity and rights.” -The Universal Deceleration of Human Rights.
“CONSCIOUNESS – STEPPING BACK, NOT LABELLING & WITNESSING – HOLDING ONESELF IN HIGH REGARD” – is a “THREE STEP DANCE” THAT PRIMES US TO RELEASE SET BACKS/ FLASH-BACKS.
• The power to respond to “flash-backs” that have the potential to send us into a disempowering Meta State downward spiral.
• The power to “interrupt” and “replug” ourselves back into the needed resourceful Meta State and behavior(s) that will keep us pursuing our desired outcomes.
• Have you ever experienced disturbing “flash-back” from the past?
• Have you had “flash-backs” of old Meta States or habits of Meta Stating that have disrupted your equilibrium, thrown you off track and send your mind and emotions to a direction that you did not want?
• Does it cause you to spiral downward into a negative Meta State, distracting you from what you want to feel, say, think and do?
• Would like to have the ability and agility to effortlessly “interrupt” these “flash- backs” and “replug” yourself into your desired resourceful state and eliminate the feeling if being a victim of such “flash-backs”?
1. Invite a disempowering “flash-back” that occurs frequently, one that interrupts your resourcefulness and/or lowers your productivity in attaining your desired outcome.
When does this usually happen? Does it occur on the way to an important meeting or business presentation? When you have prepared well for an outcome but suddenly experience a “flash-back” of negative emotions, beliefs and thoughts? How do you normally represent this “flash-back”? How does it throw you off balance?
2) Accept what you are feeling. Gently step back and simply witness these thought and feeling. They are just feelings and emotions; a “snap short” from the past.
Yes, it may seem scary but they just your old patterns of thoughts, understandings, doubts, fears and emotions: JUST OLD MAPS THAT HAVE PASSED THEIR “EXPIRY DATE” even though they may seem “real”.
Allow it to just slide pass. Remember, they can only “hurt” when you give “into” them and label or judge them; giving them the power of your attention and intention.
What if this step does not work?
If this happens, it may be due to how a person has coded the “flash-back”; the frame that holds it in place. For most of the time, this frame is the frame of learned helplessness, hopelessness and powerlessness; framing the flash-back as personal, permanent and pervasive.
The solution is to create a Meta State mental map “disrupt strategy” which has THREE KEYS. When we access the “flash-back” as in step one, we then enter the first key: THE “CANCLE” KEY: Imagine pressing a huge “Cancel” key, much like the key on your lap top. When you press this “key” imagine shouting to yourself on a high pitch voice “AAAAALRIGHTY THEN!!!!!!”
Then enter the second key: THE “DELETE” KEY: Again, much like the “delete” key on your lap top, imagine pressing a huge “Delete” key which says “THIS was THEN, THERE and at THAT time. It’s over.” Distance and Delete.
Then enter the third key: THE “ENTER” KEY: Much like the “enter” key on your lap top, imagine pressing a huge “enter” key which immediately accesses “THIS HERE NOW” connecting you to “now time” where you are in a safe and secure cocoon. Then proceed to the next step, step 3.
3) Turn your attention to the power within you, reclaiming and owning your powers to think, feel, say and do: your power zone.
Accept, appreciate and esteem yourself, your greatest gift and source of real power. Own your powers of esteem: to freely choose what to think, feel, say and do.
4). Access your vision of your life as you really want it – LOOK AT WHERE YOU WANT TO BE – and the empowering beliefs, understandings, meanings, imaginations and positive emotions that come with them.
What is it that you have decided you want passionately? How does this fill you with rich meanings, purpose and beliefs?
What further rich meanings do these meaning give you? What states do they create in you? How would you represent this in your movie mind?
5) Access these positive emotions, amplify them and step into them NOW.
Being these “to experience” in a powerful way: seeing what you are seeing, feeling what you are feeling and hearing what you hearing. Fully step into them NOW and allow it to spread through your whole body.
6) Take action that supports these meanings and beliefs of WHERE YOU WANT TO BE, NOW.
Stay present in your own personal power and anchor this state. Laugh out loud, smile, throw a fist pump, beat your chest or create any “crazy disruptive” action, word or sound that anchors this empowered state. Remain fully empowered in the NOW, “repluged” into your desired state!
7) Future Pace, Quality Control and Install.
Imagine moving into tomorrow, the days, weeks and months ahead with this powerful Meta State “disrupt and reinstalling” anchor, empowering you with the needed resources to remain congruent and aligned to your best intention.
Do you have any objection to letting this to operate? Are you ready to make this yours? Will you keep this? How will you remember it?
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Meta Stating a New Semantic Reaction/ Behavior toward an Event
Hossam Aldin Nabil Fahmy
I came across this pattern by coincidence as I was thinking to apply the swish pattern in NLP with a client who had a bad habit and wanted to change it to a new one. As I started the pattern with him, a thought stroke my mind. Would the swish pattern really change this habit effectively? What if I strip out the meanings from the old habit and install them in the new one or to choose suited applicable meanings for the new habit.
With the spirit of curiosity and passion to see if this would work, I suggested for the client to elicit a picture for the old and the new habit. The old one was at the left and was bigger than the new one. The new one was at the right and smaller.
I told my client imagine as if we are pulling out a ball of meaning from the old habit to let this picture shrink or weaken, what would it be?. Then, he answered back it would be “x” meaning. I replied what if we bring this meaning “x” to the new behavior’s picture. Does it fit? Or we need to change the meaning or may be divided to several meanings as it goes to the new picture. Then, my client would apply the new meanings to the new picture.
We kept repeating the pattern of stripping out meanings from the old one and enriching the new picture with appealing and positive meanings until at some point the old picture became like a skeleton then fade out eventually.
Finally, I applied to him the new picture with its enriching meanings after checking the ecology.
After we finished, my client described the process as a transformational experience to him.
The swish pattern works on the sub-modalities in a meta level by editing the movie of the mind to alter a change in a behavior. This pattern works on both the movie of the mind as a representation and the meanings as they resonate inside the neurology of the client.
I also used this pattern with a client who had negative semantic reactions when dealing with a person in her stomach and faster heart beats. After receiving her feedback, she explained that the negative semantic reactions are no longer triggered when dealing with the person.
I think this pattern would also function more effectively than the like/ dislike pattern in NLP because in this pattern we work on editing the movie of the mind and changing the meanings that resonate in the some.
- The sub-modalities of a representation as in VAK of an outcome gets richer as we enrich more meanings (semantics) to it and vise versa.
- You can alter a new semantic reaction to an experience by changing the meanings associated with it or reframing these meanings.
- Sub-modalities which work on meta levels in NLP when used with meanings (semantics) to alter change in behavior or semantic reaction, create a powerful robust change or a transformation in human behavior.
- The coach or therapist should establish good rapport with the client to run this pattern smoothly.
- How would you like to respond or behave toward this event, person or thing? What is your desired semantic reaction when this happens?
1. Identify the old behavior to be changed and have a VAK representation of it
What is the old behavior that you would like to alter? Do you have a picture for it? Elicit the sub-modalities of the picture in terms of VAK (visual, auditory, kinesthetic)
2. Identify the new behavior or habit and have a VAK representation of it.
What is the new behavior or habit that you would like to have? Do you have a picture for it? Elicit the sub-modalities of the picture in terms of VAK (visual, auditory, kinesthetic)
3. Check the ecology
Would this change in behavior or habit serve your life? How will it enhance the quality of your life? What is your intention behind this change?
4. Strip out the meanings from the old behavior.
Now what meaning (idea, value, importance, pleasure, intention, understanding, decision,…etc.) that we can take off from the old behavior’s picture that would weaken it …and notice how this could make the picture smaller, fader, darker or more distant.
5. Enrich the new behavior with appealing or positive meanings.
Could we put this meaning (the one stripped out from the old behavior) into the new picture of the new behavior and makes it richer in terms of its VAK or maybe what other meaning(s) you would like to enrich it with?
6. Repeat Step 4 and 5 until the old behavior’s picture disappear or fade out.
7. Future pace and Install.
So as you imagine yourself from this moment forward with these new meanings, how do you see yourself behave toward this event? Are you satisfied with this outcome? Do you want to keep these frames of mind? Are you completely aligned with it?
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De-Creating/ Transforming Un-resourceful Parts Pattern
“So just as important as it is to create rich meaning and embody it in our neurology is the converse ability, to identify toxic meaning, suspend them and release them from our bodies.” L. Michael Hall (“Unleashed” p. 88)
Because our meanings manifest in our neurology or soma (our bodies), we could experience dis-ease in our bodies in different forms like high blood pressure, headache, or chest pain when theses meanings are negative. The negative or toxic meanings we hold in our minds could then create physical ailments. Also, when we have negative frames of mind, these frames could prevent us from applying resourceful positive frames into ourselves.
The purpose of this pattern is to de-create or transform un-resourceful frames of mind to resourceful ones. I came across this pattern for the first time when I was trying to apply positive intention frames that was elicited from my client using the intentionality pattern. The negative frames that were embodied in her neurology prevented her from applying the positive intentions. So, this pattern could actually be applied as a pattern inside of another pattern when an objection or a dragon (a negative thought or feeling) appears as we are trying to apply positive meanings or frames of mind.
In addition, this pattern could be used in therapy. Because of the fact that we digest meanings into our bodies and when theses meanings are negative then they could create physical ailments. High blood pressure, headache and chest pain are some of the common signs of negative meanings embodied in a human body. For example, one of my clients who I tested this pattern with was having a headache. For her that headache was a representation of problems. After using this pattern the headache was gone. Of course, not all physical ailments could be solved this way, but because meanings are embodied in our soma, in many cases this pattern could have a cure effect.
- Meanings are embodied in our body
- We need to de-create or transform negative meanings or frames of mind to install positive resourceful frames.
- When you turn negative thoughts or feelings against yourself, physical ailment could arise in different forms.
- The coach or therapist should establish good rapport with the client to run this pattern smoothly with no objection.
- When you apply this resourceful frame of mind, do you have any objections? Does this frame settle well inside you?
- What is it that prevents you from applying the resourceful state to yourself?
- What part of your body feels dis-ease or uncomfortable?
1. Identify an Interference.
As you think of applying a resourceful state to self, does anything (thought or feeling) prevent you from doing so? What is that thing preventing you from applying the resourceful state? Do you feel it in your body? Where in your body?
2. Examine the interference.
What if you can bring out that thing that is limiting you and examine it from an observer state. How does it look like? (Let the client describe the sub-modalities of it).
3. Check the ecology. Does this thing or any part of it serve your life?
Is there a positive intention behind this? If so, what? What does it seek to do for you that’s positive? Can this be transformed? How would you like to transform it so it works for you?
4. Qualify the part.
What would you like to meta-states this part with to make it more resourceful for you?
Give a menu list according to the context. Menu: esteem, self confidence, courage, power, etc.
Invite the client to apply the resourceful part to him/ her self. You may notice the semantic reaction when the client do so (Change in his/ her gestures or a relief of pain from the body).
6. Check if the client can now apply the first resourceful state.
Can you now apply to yourself the first resourceful state or there is still any part of you that is stopping you? If the answer is yes, repeat the steps from 1 to 5 again.
7. Future pace and apply.
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The MBI technique – Tim Goodenough
In 2012 the book, Raising Talent: How to fast-track potential into performance (Penguin) written by Tim Goodenough with Michael Cooper was released. The book’s focus was to integrate cutting edge talent development theory with Neuro-Semantic techniques and principles to create a powerful How-to book for anyone looking to develop their talent or the talent of others. Two of the key patterns of the book were The Lightning Rod Pattern and the MBI Technique. Even though the focus of this article is the MBI technique, it is important to understand the principles of the Lightning Rod technique to use the MBI Technique effectively.
Meaning is mapped at multiple levels
From Alfred Korzybski’s book Science and Sanity, Dr L. Michael Hall articulated the distinction that we human beings map meaning at three different levels. The neurological level (the body), the representation level (the movies we create) and the conceptual level (the meanings we hold of the movies we make.) In effect, this means that we can hold beliefs, including limiting beliefs, on 1, 2 or 3 distinct levels – each of which may have their own sub/meta-levels. As such it is important to have a pattern to not only release limiting beliefs at whatever level(s) they may be, but also have a technique to discover those limiting beliefs pro-actively so that you can effectively prepare for a critical meeting, life goal, presentation, key life moment, pressure situation or final.
The discovery of limiting beliefs technique is called the Lightning Rod Technique and the releasing limiting beliefs at whatever level you may find them is called The MBI (Mind Body Integration) Technique.
The Lightning Rod Technique is based on the principle that extreme scenarios reveal beliefs and the more vivid, exaggerated and/or meaningful the scenario is the more we go into state. When we go into state we can discover our beliefs related to the scenario.
Conceptually many people can identify with being scared of heights, however if you were to imagine standing on the top of a rickety iron tower that smells of rust and decay and that is creaking in the wind, the same wind that you can feel on your face and that this wobbly structure is 20 stories tall and the platform you are standing on is starting to give, and whilst you feel the weight of your feet slipping you can just make out the people on the ground looking up at you with fearful eyes …
If this scenario got you into state, you can use the state indicators (breathing, tension, anxiety etc) and other behaviours, to find the frames and beliefs that got you into state and review if they serve you. So whilst using this technique might be useful for “negative” events, it can be much more useful in revealing any beliefs that might interfere or limit extremely positive events or the development of trained ability or performance in pursuit of related positive goals. Discovering if you have any limiting beliefs about being a millionaire may be the first step to moving towards a more positive bank balance. Discovering if you have limiting beliefs about long-term success may be the first step to closing today’s big deal. The Inner Game of beliefs needs to combine with the Outer Game of performance to get High Performance, this technique focuses on the Inner Game, developing the Outer Game is up to you.
This technique is especially useful in routing out old and subtle, yet still powerful limiting beliefs that ‘quietly’ sabotage your goals and intentions as they haven’t been fully identified or dealt with.
Life Lighting Rod themes: Some options to consider using with the MBI technique
- Seeing 10 million on your bank account statement.
- Celebrating your thirtieth wedding anniversary and you are more in love than ever.
- Spending a day where your opinion is respected both at home and at work and you feel valued and are intellectually and emotionally engaged and fulfilled.
- Going on an amazing date with George Clooney/Jennifer Aniston.
- Being the model on a photo shoot for the cover of Shape magazine or Men’s Health (or whatever magazine works for you).
- Going for a full medical check-up and the doctor is amazed with the shape and health of your body and can’t believe you are the age you have on your patient records.
- Handling a highly charged confrontation with love, calmness and elegance
- Experiencing a sense of unconditional worth and love from yourself around the person/people/scenario who/which triggers you experiencing less than that
What is something significant that you are working or moving towards that you feel is just not getting the progress or momentum you would like? What would be an “Absurdly” positive movie that can be used to identify any limiting beliefs related to this?
What is an area in your life that you really want to be more successful with, but just can’t seem to get beyond a certain “invisible barrier” or limitation? What would be an “Absurdly” positive movie that can be used to identify any limiting beliefs related to this?
What big goal do you have that you feel you aren’t 100% mentally aligned with? What would be an “Absurdly” positive movie that can be used to identify any limiting beliefs related to this?
What do you really want, but feel you don’t deserve it – and that you are now ready to deserve? What would be an “Absurdly” positive movie that can be used to identify any limiting beliefs related to this?
Distinction to note:
Removing limiting beliefs won’t suddenly give you that performance necessarily, unless you have already developed that trained ability (performance); it will just remove the mental barriers that are limiting the development or performance of your current ability in the context of the movie you created.
The Mind-Body Integration (MBI) technique
- Create the detailed 5 to 10 second HD quality mental movie of the “absurdly” positive “Lightning Rod” performance you are looking to experience and include all your senses to make it as real and as vivid as possible. Most people who do this exercise prefer to see it from their own eyes as it is more powerful; however some prefer creating the movie as if they were watching themselves on TV, in 3rd person. This allows them to more easily ‘step into’ the movie in Step 3, and with that they are able to more easily get body feedback. Use whatever style works best for you. If there is any form of resistance or discomfort whilst creating and imagining your movie go to Step 4 to review and possibly release the obstacles and then return to Step 1 to continue creating the HD movie.
- Supercharge your movie (also know as climbing the meaning ladder), by focusing on the highlight of the movie and answering the question, ‘So what does that mean to me?’ as many times as possible. Be sure that your meanings are all positively stated. If you find an answer like I am not going to be scared anymore, then convert it to a positive, if you aren’t scared then what are you? – make sure there are no Not’s in your answers.
- In your mind step fully into the picture of yourself that is represented in the movie and ask your body for feedback ; how does your body feel in this movie? If there is no resistance or discomfort jump to step 6. If you are viewing this from 1st person, theoretically you should be viewing this movie from your own eyes already, and if you have been doing this, go inside and give yourself full permission to get feedback from your body and notice what your body is telling you as you connect with it fully in your movie. If you have been viewing this from 3rd person, literally step into your body in the movie in your mind and then ask your body for feedback.
- If there is some form of resistance or discomfort, focus on that part of your body/mind where the resistance and/or discomfort is and ask yourself the question, ‘What is that about?’ An example of this resistance or discomfort might be stomach tension, shallow breathing, back tension, stiffness, heaviness, a tight chest, etc The resistance may be in the form of something in your mind, a word, a hesitation, a memory, a thought, a feeling. Give your mind or body time to give you feedback; sometimes it’s in the form of a theme, a word, a feeling, a sentence, a memory or another sensation elsewhere in your body. Notice what your body is telling you; if you need to, speak out loud the story of what you are experiencing. Once you have the initial feedback, focus on that feedback and ask the discovery question, ‘So what does that mean to me?’ again and again, referring to the previous answer until you have run out of answers. Write your answers on a piece of paper, starting at the bottom. Occasionally your body feedback will hold no significance, if for example you are a bit sick the pain in your chest may be from the sickness and nothing more. If you battle to find any meanings or any info, ask yourself the question whilst focusing on your body feedback, “Is this significant or important for this exercise?” and your body will give you feedback about that, if it is not significant, tell yourself in your mind, “Ok so this is other information.” and go to step 3.
- Review your answers (from Step 4) and focus on the top/highest or CEO meaning in the stack and if you don’t want to keep it say to yourself, ‘I give myself full permission to let *this* go fully and completely’. *This* is the CEO meaning that is not working for you. If you can feel a shift, or feel it letting go then go to Step 3, else if there is some resistance, discomfort or if something is stopping you, go to step 4.If you do want to keep your CEO meaning and body feedback go inside and let your body know that this is a positive indicator (eg butterflies in the tummy can be a sign of healthy and positive nerves), you do this by focusing on your body feedback and telling yourself, “This is a positive for me” then go to Step 3. Maybe you only want to keep part of what you discovered, and release the rest. Make that distinction in your mind about giving yourself full permission to let go part of it, and then say yes to the rest. For example saying yes to desire to be the best, and letting go of hyper self criticism. Another way to let go of something is to use the feeling of letting go about it. Remember the last time you were carrying a lot of heavy shopping bags and what it felt like to let them go, and use that feeling to let go what you don’t want.
Once you have released any unuseful CEO meanings, go to Step 3 to see if any other obstacles or objections have emerged.
- If you have gone through more than one stack of obstacles/obstruction and now the latest stack of obstructions/obstacles is now clear, use this time to see if you can give yourself permission to let go those obstructions that were in the previous stacks that were discovered through the process. Make sure you have cleared all the obstacle stacks before going on to the next step.
- Focus on how your body holds the positive meanings of this performance: are your arms and legs relaxed or do they have some tension? Do you have energy? Where? What are your shoulders like? Your jaw? Your stomach? Your focus? Your hands? Your legs? Your breathing? Your vision? Your sense of coordination? Notice any other part of your body that holds important information for your performance and then plug all this info into your movie and notice how the movie shifts. In what way is the movie different? Better? Once you have played your movie again with this extra body detail, supercharge your movie again by asking ‘So what does this mean to me?’ until you run out of answers. You may have exactly the same meanings, and that is okay. It is important to integrate the body’s positive indicators (neurological) with the new movie details (representational) and then reinforce the (conceptual) meanings.
- What if I can’t create the positive movie I want?This could be because your visual skills aren’t well developed. Try adding the feeling and the sounds of your movie first and then add in the pictures. This could also be because your mind literally doesn’t believe you can have or experience some or all of what is in your movie, or perhaps for you it is unsafe to imagine it. Either way try putting the sentence, “I give myself full permission to fully visualise what I want” or “I give myself full permission to safely visualise and experience X in just the way I want” (Where X is the part of your movie you can’t picture, or doesn’t play the way you want it to) into Step 4 of the pattern
- What if my meanings I discover keep on coming up as negative whenever I ask, “so what does that mean to me?”It is likely that when exploring objections and blocks that, those meanings may be negative, however when you supercharge your movie, if you discover any negative meanings attached to your positive movie, evaluate them after discovering the CEO level meaning that is holding the negatives in place, and if you don’t want that CEO level meaning use step 5 to let it go, then supercharge your movie with positives again to test; it will either be positively integrated or you may find another set of negative meanings held in place by another CEO level meaning. Continue this process until your mindset is fully supportive of your movie.
- What if I don’t get any feedback from my body/ What if I can’t get any answers from my body when I ask the question, “So what is *that* about?”If you are struggling to get body feedback the first step is to try a different camera view in Step 1. If you tried viewing the movie from your own eyes (1st person) and you didn’t get any feedback, change to 3rd person view and try again. Or if you tried the 3rd person view and got no feedback, change to the 1st person view.
If you are still struggling to get body feedback it may be because you don’t have permission to connect with your body. To work on this try the following statement, “I give myself full permission to connect with my body and to safely hear what it has to say to me,” and work with whatever emerges. This absence of body feedback may be the result of some trauma, and if so it is strongly advised to see a psychologist or mental health professional.
- What if I do this whole exercise and I can’t shift important things in my mindset, in fact it feels like I may be stuck in a loop?
There are four possible reasons for this type of stuckness.
- Unspecified Verb. We often say things to ourselves and other like, “I just want to be heard.” Or “I just want to be noticed.” “I have this voice inside my head.” If the mindset is holding meanings like this, to explore them more fully we need to get more detail, more specifics, and then use the discovery questions to understand things better. When you are exploring a meaning stack, as soon as you discover an unspecified verb, ask the question to find the specified verb, and when you have that answer, carry on using the discovery question, ask “So what does that mean to you?” as many times as you can. Example:” “I just want to be heard.” – “Heard by who?” – “So what does that mean to you?” “I just want to be noticed”, “Noticed by whom?” – “So what does that mean to you?” “I have this voice inside my head”, “whose voice is it and what is it saying?” – “So what does that mean to you?”
- Cognitive Distortions. Cognitive distortions are when our mental filters that we use to make sense of things and create meaning about things in our personal lives create distorted experiences, thoughts, beliefs, decisions and emotions. Even just one cognitive distortion can create limitations and negativity, often people have more than one cognitive distortion operating in different contexts of their lives. Examples of cognitive distortions is the style of all-or-nothing thinking (I have everything or I have nothing), awfulising, which is the style of imagining the worst possible scenario and making it even worse by referring to it as awful, without actually defining what awful is. These patterns can be subtle to pick up, especially if you are trying to discover your own patterns. What is recommend is that you read this brief article on Cognitive Distortions by Dr L Michael Hall at www.coachingunity.co.za./cogdistort.pdf, and then review your stacks of meaning that you have written down to see if you can find any that are limiting you, the article includes some tips and strategies to step out of the distortion.
- Needing to understand to let go. This was my personal (TG) limitation for a long while, I wouldn’t be able to let go of something negative until I had analysed it and understood it, which was very hard to do for the negatives that were created from my childhood as I literally didn’t have movies, or memories for many of them. When I explored why I was doing that, I discovered the hidden benefit that was locking this limiting style in place. I believed that if I fully understood a negative, from all angles, then it would give me ‘insurance’ that I never needed to go there/experience that again, and until I did have that full and deep understanding, I had a fear that this negative would return. Not useful and not true. Sometimes letting go of a negative is just about unlearning something that is not true and doesn’t work for you. If you are struggling with this use the statement “I give myself full permission to let go of negatives that are holding me back without having to fully understand them, negatives don’t need to be understood to be let go of completely.” If there is any resistance or objection to this statement go to Step 4 in the MBI technique
- Patience. If you are impatient, frustrated or aggressive with yourself you will not get the same results that you could using these techniques. Take your time, don’t rush anything, be patient and treat yourself well when you are working in this space. If you are still struggling to make progress, i.e. your blocks/obstacles are bigger than the skill levels you have developed so far to shift them, consult a local Meta-Coach.