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MODELING HUMAN EXPERIENCES – Meta Reflections 2013 #10

When it comes to the heart of Neuro-Semantics and NLP— studying subjective human experiences and modeling those experiences, a first question that often arises is why. Why model an experience? And the answer is really simple. It is to understand how it works. That’s because when you understanding the how of now (Jan. 28, #6) you are often handed powerful leverage points of change or replication. That is, knowing how an experience works—if that experience is not helpful, useful, beneficial, ecological, etc.—you can change it. And mostly you can change it by noting how it works, when, where, with whom, etc. and sometimes the tiniest alteration of a key variable will facilitate a systemic change.

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One of our purposes in Neuro-Semantics is to enable ourselves and others to actualize, or make real, our highest and best. Highest refers to your highest visions about life, your values for how to live, and meanings for making life meaningful. Best refers to your top performances, your best skills and competencies, and taking your actions so that they reflect you when you are in the zone of performance. Yet to do that with mindfulness requires that we be able to assess where we are now and where we are as we progress, in other words, assessment of our self-actualization. And that means creating benchmarks for self-actualizing development.

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MODELING: THE MAGIC OF “HOW” – Meta Reflections 2013 #7

In last week’s post, I highlighted the power of focusing on the how of detailing out what is happening in the now. For me, this was the most exciting thing when I first discovered NLP Modeling. By asking questions and by closely observing people, a person could identify how any given person is currently, at this moment, creating his or her sense of reality. And if we can do that, then we can figure out how that reality came into existence, operates, and can be altered. Incredible!

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In the last post (#7), I wrote this: So just how do you model using Meta-States? The answer lies in detecting and identifying the meta-levels that a person has reflexively brought to themselves that now qualifies their experience and operates as a frame to their experience. What this means is that as you and I access another thought-and-feeling about our first state, that second state operates dynamically to do several things-

It brings another mind-body state to it and so adds qualities or qualifies the first.
It sets the cognitive ideas within that state as the frame for the first.
It puts the first as a member of a class, the “class” being the classification that the second one creates.

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Modeling Excellence Series #10

The Matrix Model originated from the Meta-States Model. It arose as a way to express what a “meta-state” is in a way that the average person could easily understand and use. So instead of taking about “states,” I began talking about “the games” that we humans play out in our actions and talk. So where did that idea come from? From T.A. (Transactional Analysis) and especially from Tom Harris (I’m Okay; You’re Okay, 1970) and from Eric Berne (Games People Play, 1965). People play “games.” A game is a set of actions that you can see or hear and so a “game” is an external expression of something internal.

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Modeling Excellence Series #13

In the last article in this series, I contrasted two very different kinds of “subjective experiences,” short-term and long-term experiences. In doing so I also contrasted the genius of NLP to the genius of Neuro-Semantics. My point was that what NLP began regarding modeling the structure of experience, Neuro-Semantics has continued and expanded with the Meta-States Model and the Matrix Model. Here as I continue that discussion, I’ll use resilience as an example. I’ll do that because it is easy to comprehend and because it was the modeling project from which I discovered the Meta-States Model.

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Neuro-Semantic Announcements

The International Neuro-Semantic Conference — 2013  — June 21-23 This “Coaching Conference” is designed to provide lots and lots of top-level and cutting-edge models, patterns, and practices for those […]

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Modeling Excellence Series #12

A basic premise in NLP is that within (or behind, or above) every experience has a structure. Further, when you work with or change the structure, you are working with the very processes of the experience (or behavior) rather than dealing with the content or symptoms. To put it another way, there is a how to involved in every experience and when you discover the how to, you discover the heart. To make this really practice, this means that there is a how to for-

Getting depressed when you have sufficient money and loved ones.
Becoming anxious in the face of speaking before an audience.
Put off doing something that you fully know would improve the quality of your life.
Eat the wrong foods and too much of them when you have other choices.

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MATRIX MODELING – 2013 Meta Reflections #19

While The Matrix Model originated from the Meta-States Model and not from any particular modeling, Bob Bodenhamer and I immediately used it as a modeling tool as we applied it to the experience of stuttering. And in doing that we realized that we could use this model as a format or tool for modeling any human experience and especially complex human experiences. In fact, the more systemic the experience, the more the useful the Matrix Model became.

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MODELING FRAMES – 2013 Meta Reflections #17

To meta-state is to classify and that means framing and reframing and outframing, all of which lie at the heart of modeling.

Now when you are modeling any complex state or human experience, you have to flush out the frames that governs that experience. If you cannot do that, you will not be able to actually understand the experience let alone replicate it if it is a state of excellence that you want to adopt for yourself and others. This raises lots of questions about modeling.

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WHAT’S THE BIG DEAL ABOUT COACHING? – Meta Reflections 2013 #15

I returned to my home in Colorado this past week and in returning lots of calls to people, I had the opportunity to talk to lots of people about both the Meta-Coaching System and the Neuro-Semantic Conference in Malaysia this year which we have designated a “Coaching Conference” with 18 workshops … all of them related to the field of Coaching. One person seemed to be genuinely surprised that we are devoting the Second International Conference of Neuro-Semantics to Coaching, and asked why. “What’s the big deal about Coaching?”

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What is NLP? How can we define it?

There are two answers that I like to give. First, NLP is a Communication Model and second, NLP is a Modeling Model. Yes, it can be framed as involving other things- a technology of excellence, a format for self-development, the success formula. Yet those ways of defining it are typically P.R. definitions, that is, definitions that serve the purpose of selling NLP. They are not truly descriptions of what it is.

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SELF-ACTUALIZATION TRAINING – Meta Reflections 2013 #3

Are you ready for training in actualizing (making real) yourself and your potentials? Are you aware that this is precisely what you and all of us are made for? And are you aware that this is what ultimately will make you “happy?” And that this is what allows you to fully blossom and come alive to life’s richness and possibilities? If so, then this may be the year that you begin your own self-actualizing journey and to Seek the Peak of your potentials.

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A vision was dreamed a number of years ago to have an International Neuro-Semantic Conference every other year. First, we dreamed it and then we actualized it. The first Conference was in 2011 in Colorado where the Meta-States Model originated and where Neuro-Semantics was originally launched. The next one will be on the other side of the planet from Colorado – in Malaysia and specifically in Kuala Lumpur (just north of Singapore which is north of Australia).

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2013 – a new year has just arrived! And what does that mean? Lots of things. One meaning is about time: the field of NLP is now 38 years old (1975), the field of Neuro-Semantics is now 19 years old (1994), and this past November we celebrated the 10th year of Meta-Coaching. And to put everything into historical perspective, the beginning of the first Human Potential Movement occurred 74 years old (1938). I put it beginning in 1938 because that was the year that Abraham Maslow began the first modeling of excellence project- when he began his “Good Humans Studies” using Ruth Benedict and Max Wertheimer as his first self-actualizing subjects.

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