April 13, 2015 We know that you as an individual have lots of potentials which are not identified, developed, and unleashed. The same is true of groups. It is true […]Read more
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April 6, 2015 It’s Not Southern California! You undoubtedly know that NLP began in Southern California in the 1970s. Unfortunately, that says a lot about it, doesn’t it? […]Read more
March 30, 2015 Words are powerful. Here are some quotes that I put in the book, Mind-Lines: Lines that Change Minds (2005) indicate the power of words and how because […]Read more
March 23, 2015 Self-Determination Theory #2 In the last post I described Self-Determination Theory as a derivative from Maslow and Rogers and others in the first Human Potential Movement. It […]Read more
March 16, 2015 Self-Determination Theory #1 Two dozen years ago Edward Deci and Richard Ryan created what they called, and is now recognized as, the Self-Determination Theory. I had run […]Read more
August 26, 2013 Making Self-Actualization Actionable #1 After a lifetime of studying and modeling self-actualizing people, Abraham Maslow wrote a chapter about his experiences in a book, Challenges of Humanistic Psychology that […]Read more
August 19, 2013 Here’s something fantastic to imagine-imagine NLP Leaders getting together and collaborating! As a visionary, while it is a far-off dream and wild imagination, it could happen! What […]Read more
August 12, 2013 Modeling Excellence Series #16 Earlier this year I wrote 15 articles in the “Modeling Excellence” series and ended that with the one back on May 27. Recently in […]Read more
August 5, 2013 Emotional Mastery Series #8 If you really want to master your emotions -self-actualize. That is, make real (actualize) your best version of you so that you become as […]Read more
July 29, 2013 Emotional Mastery Series #7 What is an Emotions (#1, 2 & 3) Pseudo-Emotions (#4) Emotional Continua (#5) Emotional Tolerance (#6) If an emotion […]Read more
July 22, 2013 Emotional Mastery Series #7 What is an Emotions (#1, 2 & 3) Pseudo-Emotions (#4) Emotional Continua (#5) Emotional Tolerance (#6) When Emotions are Distorted (#7) This […]Read more
Question: What is the one big emotion that everyone wants to experience and feel? Of all emotions, which one is the emotion most desirable? If there’s any common response to these questions or the question about what do you really want, at least in American culture, it is “I just want to be happy.”
Happiness, it seems is what everybody wants. And it certainly seems that this is what is constantly sold on the internet, on television, in movies, and in all forms of social marketing these days. It is not only sold as the great prize, happiness is also presented as the great panacea for life’s problems. As a result it is common for people to think, “If only I was happy, everything would be okay.” And so lots of people live their lives searching for happiness.
Having provided an operational definition and description of what an “emotion” is (#1-#3) and that no every emotion is a real emotion (#4), I now want to present another perspective for thinking about emotions- one that will assist in experiencing more emotional mastery.
The perspective is to view any given emotion on a continuum. If you think about your emotions in terms of a continuum, you can get a fuller and richer view of your emotions. If you position any given emotion (the basic emotions) on a continuum, you thereby make it possible to begin to identify the other emotions that cluster around that one. This will enable you to see the relationship between similar emotions and that will lead you to see how one emotion can shade or evolve into another emotion.Read more
Masquerading around our lives are pseudo-emotions. Seducing us to call them “emotions,” to think of them as real emotions, and to respond to them as if they were actually “emotions,” these masquerading false-emotions plague our lives and those of our loved ones. And what makes them so tricky and so difficult to catch is that you and I can create them in a moment, in a nanosecond.Read more
In the past two articles, I have identified five of the seven truths about emotions, and with this one the last two truths. As a kinesthetic sensation enriched by meaning (cognitively) an emotion exercises influence on us to get us to move (motion) out (ex) from where we are. As a difference between map-and-territory, these mind-body systemic experiences create energy, motivation, and vitality within us. They are therefore important, but not as ultimate truth, but as relative truth indicating what meanings our bodies are attempting to actualize. As somatic registering of our meanings- they indicate the meanings that we are feeling.Read more
Last week I began this series on “Getting Clear on what an Emotion is.” I started by beginning with the “7 Truths about Emotions” that we present in a good many of the Neuro-Semantic Trainings. Here are two more for this week. These “truths” about emotions pick up on the theme to continue grounding this subject so that we know what we’re talking about and in that way we can create a good operational definition of an emotion. Once this is complete, then I’ll present some skills for handling emotions from an NLP/Neuro-Semantic perspective for emotional mastery.Read more
Just this past week I presented the Seven Truths that we Speak to Emotions. In Neuro-Semantics, we present this when we work with the Crucible Change Model, the Meta-Stating Troubling Emotions pattern, the Emotional Mastery training, and various other trainings. These ideas are also in numerous books, Unleashed, The Crucible, and Meta-States. Several suggested that I present the material here on Neurons, hence this series.Read more
Some years ago I interviewed several public speakers. It wasn’t a big modeling project, just a tiny little one. I wanted to know what certain speakers who seemed exceptionally “cool, calm, and collected” were doing in their minds and bodies to create that experience. So I asked. I asked if I could interview them, and then using a combination of NLP and Neuro-Semantic models, I questioned them until I obtained their strategies for maintaining “presence of mind under pressure.” After I got three strategies, I then went to the literature on stress and stress management, to the writings of Hans Selye, the stress management expert and person who coined the term eustress, and the literature on Assertiveness which is the Type-C personality in contrast to Type-A and Type-B personalities when it comes to stress.Read more
There are many dimensions of self-actualization, maybe there are as many dimensions as there are aspects of human experience. As we in Neuro-Semantics keep studying, researching, training, coaching, and consulting on self-actualization and enabling people to live a self-actualizing life, we are discovering new dimensions. To this end, I have designed the Self-Actualization Training, Certification, Competency skills, and Diploma around four of the key dimensions: vitality, potentiality, creativity, and leadership. These are very different aspects of the self-actualizing life and so each of the trainings are very different as well.Read more
Finally we have a second book on the history of NLP, one that adds more information about the early days and gives much more of a human face to the adventure called NLP. In 1990 Terry McClendon published the first book, The Wild Days: NLP 1972-1981. This now gives us two books on the early history. Yet while we have a second book, it is still not complete and there’s lots more about the history and origins of NLP that is missing from this book.Read more